We have finally gotten all of Mom's things moved from her home. It has been cleaned and Kurt made sure the lawn has been mowed all summer long. We put it up for sale about a month and half ago. After about a week or so we received a bid. The lady calling asked if I minded a realtor handling it. Dumb me said No. Little did I know what a nightmare it would turn out to be. After about 5 1/2 weeks we finally closed a week ago last Friday. I can't believe how much longer it took to close with a realtor. Other wise we would have just gone down to the DMV and exchanged money and a receipt and signed the title and it would have been completed but those realtors have to have a ton of paper work and so many demands.
Oh well it's over now. We took some things to DI and some went to our children and then the rest came to our house. Most of these things I couldn't make a decision on what to do with them and felt I needed a bit more time to decide. So that is still ahead to be done but other than that it is all accomplished. The lawyer has completed what he was doing and now this is all completed.
It has been a long 8 months. Filled with tons of emotion, sadness, tears and work. But now I have to find a new way to go on with my life. I find myself wondering what should I do first. It's like I have been in a tunnel and have come out into the light. Now the big job begins.
I have physical therapy and hopefully that will help me become more able to move better and without so much pain.
I need to thank my Heavenly Father for His help with the past months. For my husband and all of the work and care he has given to me. To our daughters and their help. Thank you for it all. I love you all.
Saturday, September 1, 2012
Sunday, May 27, 2012
Memorial Day
After listening to several programs devoted to this day. I feel so full of my gratitude towards the many men and women that give of themselves even to losing of their lives to protect us here in America.
They recited a story of one young man that went into the military and right into a war, this was back in Vietnam and after nearly being killed several times it was his time to come back home. He arrived at the airport and had just gotten off a plan and some woman walked up to him and spit in his face and called him a baby killer. Then it went on to tell about his life since. He has been in two marriages and is living on the streets. What did he do wrong except defend his/our country in war.
I can't help but wonder if that woman that spit in his face stopped to think about this war coming into the USA. I'm sure she felt is couldn't possibly happen - well guess again lady. We are seeing parts of it right here now with the drugs and guns and gangs. This is very close to what is happening in these other countries. Evil people are striving to get more power over the people and especially those unable to defend themselves.
The wars in other countries that our soldiers are helping out by fighting the wars are no more than these evil individuals wanting to bring this evil to us RIGHT HERE IN THE GOOD OLD USA. We are not immured to these things.
But I digress - the main reason for this blog is to say THANK YOU TO OUR SOLDERS to let them know I appreciate the sacrifices they have made. I thank their families for their sacrifices also either through them being gone from home for such long times and even for the fact that many of them will not return home.; I pray that God will bless and protect these men and women and their families. For I've been in many of these countries and I can say, the American soil sure felt good to step back on. We have so much to be thankful for - stop and say thank you and be grateful for all that we have whether it be great or small. We have so much more than so many. THANK YOU.
They recited a story of one young man that went into the military and right into a war, this was back in Vietnam and after nearly being killed several times it was his time to come back home. He arrived at the airport and had just gotten off a plan and some woman walked up to him and spit in his face and called him a baby killer. Then it went on to tell about his life since. He has been in two marriages and is living on the streets. What did he do wrong except defend his/our country in war.
I can't help but wonder if that woman that spit in his face stopped to think about this war coming into the USA. I'm sure she felt is couldn't possibly happen - well guess again lady. We are seeing parts of it right here now with the drugs and guns and gangs. This is very close to what is happening in these other countries. Evil people are striving to get more power over the people and especially those unable to defend themselves.
The wars in other countries that our soldiers are helping out by fighting the wars are no more than these evil individuals wanting to bring this evil to us RIGHT HERE IN THE GOOD OLD USA. We are not immured to these things.
But I digress - the main reason for this blog is to say THANK YOU TO OUR SOLDERS to let them know I appreciate the sacrifices they have made. I thank their families for their sacrifices also either through them being gone from home for such long times and even for the fact that many of them will not return home.; I pray that God will bless and protect these men and women and their families. For I've been in many of these countries and I can say, the American soil sure felt good to step back on. We have so much to be thankful for - stop and say thank you and be grateful for all that we have whether it be great or small. We have so much more than so many. THANK YOU.
Sunday, January 15, 2012
Mom
- Thanksgiving - two weeks and two days ago my Mom passed away. We knew it was coming as she was almost 95 years old, and would have been on the 22nd of this month. But it was still rather quick. We had a wonderful Thanksgiving with all of our children but one and their families and then Christmas was just as great. Everything was going along so well then out of the blue we all picked up this dumb stomach flu. it was such a nasty bug that Glen and I were really ill from it. Well, it seems so was my Mom. Then she ended up in the hospital two days later. She had a trust in place with a DNR attached. We didn't want Mom to be miserable so decided to keep her in the hospital. They didn't do anything for Mom except keep her comfortable. This gave her family a chance to say goodby to her. The ones near were able to come and spend some time visiting while the others called and did all they could do from a distance. I know their struggle was the worst. My niece had just moved to Arkansas and this was so difficult for her as she was missing her immediate family so much and then to have her grandmother so ill. When we learned her time was so close all of our girls and their families started to make plans for coming home. Our Daughter and her two children were able to drive up from AZ and were here on December 31st. That was most comforting to have them around, supporting, commiserating, hugging and sharing a few tears.
I know Mom is much happier now as she was having so many problems and hated the fact that someone else had to do most things for her as she had always been such a independent lady. There seemed few things she couldn't or at least wouldn't attempt to fix. Her home was always so nice and clean and she was a great cook. But at the end, she was unable to do most of these things by herself. We were blessed to have some very wonderful people coming in that helped her out. She didn't want to go to an assisted living place but desired to stay in her own home, so this is how it all came to pass.
I am glad her burdens have been lifted from her frail body and that she now can be free of the constraints that have so long frustrated her. Now she is able to be with her family, parents, sisters and brothers, grandparents, aunts, uncles and friends that have all gone before her. But there is a great whole in my life. I feel like my reason for doing things has gone away. Now that may sound so dramatic but the last few years, my sweet husband and myself have had the opportunity and sometimes burden of taking care of my Mom. When there were any problems or appointments that needed to be accomplished we were the ones that provided the support. We had also taken her with us on many trips, not the last while but before. She enjoyed going on these outings because we usually went to visit with one of our children and their families so that gave her the chance to enjoy them too. I find every once in a while I reach to call Mom to tell her something that has happened or to just visit to see how she is doing. I have so closed in my arena of friends that my husband and my Mom were my closest friends and companions. To have 1/2 of that group gone is very difficult.
To my Mom, I say, I am glad you are happy and at peace. You have earned your eternal time with your loved ones. Until we meet again. I love you. Your loving daughter, Pat.
- Thanksgiving - two weeks and two days ago my Mom passed away. We knew it was coming as she was almost 95 years old, and would have been on the 22nd of this month. But it was still rather quick. We had a wonderful Thanksgiving with all of our children but one and their families and then Christmas was just as great. Everything was going along so well then out of the blue we all picked up this dumb stomach flu. it was such a nasty bug that Glen and I were really ill from it. Well, it seems so was my Mom. Then she ended up in the hospital two days later. She had a trust in place with a DNR attached. We didn't want Mom to be miserable so decided to keep her in the hospital. They didn't do anything for Mom except keep her comfortable. This gave her family a chance to say goodby to her. The ones near were able to come and spend some time visiting while the others called and did all they could do from a distance. I know their struggle was the worst. My niece had just moved to Arkansas and this was so difficult for her as she was missing her immediate family so much and then to have her grandmother so ill. When we learned her time was so close all of our girls and their families started to make plans for coming home. Our Daughter and her two children were able to drive up from AZ and were here on December 31st. That was most comforting to have them around, supporting, commiserating, hugging and sharing a few tears.
I know Mom is much happier now as she was having so many problems and hated the fact that someone else had to do most things for her as she had always been such a independent lady. There seemed few things she couldn't or at least wouldn't attempt to fix. Her home was always so nice and clean and she was a great cook. But at the end, she was unable to do most of these things by herself. We were blessed to have some very wonderful people coming in that helped her out. She didn't want to go to an assisted living place but desired to stay in her own home, so this is how it all came to pass.
I am glad her burdens have been lifted from her frail body and that she now can be free of the constraints that have so long frustrated her. Now she is able to be with her family, parents, sisters and brothers, grandparents, aunts, uncles and friends that have all gone before her. But there is a great whole in my life. I feel like my reason for doing things has gone away. Now that may sound so dramatic but the last few years, my sweet husband and myself have had the opportunity and sometimes burden of taking care of my Mom. When there were any problems or appointments that needed to be accomplished we were the ones that provided the support. We had also taken her with us on many trips, not the last while but before. She enjoyed going on these outings because we usually went to visit with one of our children and their families so that gave her the chance to enjoy them too. I find every once in a while I reach to call Mom to tell her something that has happened or to just visit to see how she is doing. I have so closed in my arena of friends that my husband and my Mom were my closest friends and companions. To have 1/2 of that group gone is very difficult.
To my Mom, I say, I am glad you are happy and at peace. You have earned your eternal time with your loved ones. Until we meet again. I love you. Your loving daughter, Pat.
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